What Kind Of Alone Time You Need As An Introvert

By Anni

I work from home and people often ask if I miss the human contact. Don’t I get lonely? Don’t I go stir crazy?

I always feel a little weird answering that actually I don’t. It’s the truth, but I’m afraid it makes me seem anti-social – the crazy recluse. I never add that, as a matter of fact, I could use even more alone time.

Extraverts feel energized after hanging out with other people. Introverts get their energy sapped by other people and need time alone to recharge.

But it’s a little more complicated than that. Not all alone time is equal for introverts.

What you should really be looking for as an introvert is time for your brain to process things.  This may play out a little differently depending on your other personality traits and depending on your specific situation, but here are a few examples from my own life to clarify the distinctions between different types of alone or recharging time.

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Being the only person present in a space doesn’t mean I’m automatically recharging my batteries.

When I first started working from home, I was typically the only person in the house for several hours a day.  However, my telecommuting job at the time involved a lot of interaction with people via phone and email. And here’s the thing.  Interactions via phone drain me nearly as much as being in the same room with someone.  And while email is not as draining, it’s definitely not recharging either. Basically, as long as I’m interacting in one form or another, I’m not recharging.

Another thing that particular job required was focusing my mind on whatever tasks I was given.  I often had to force my mind to think about things it wasn’t particularly interested in thinking about. Again, I may have been physically alone, but when my mind wasn’t free to process what it needed and wanted to process, I wasn’t really recharging.

What introverts really need is free time for their brain.

I can be recharging with other people present and while engaging in an activity as long as my mind is free and I’m not constantly interrupted.

I can cook dinner with my kids right next to me watching TV, and as long as I have my headphones on, feel recharged after.  Cooking doesn’t require my attention and the headphones keep me from hearing the kids and the TV. (They still manage to interrupt me some anyway, but a lot less than without the headphones.)

My husband is someone I’m very comfortable with and someone who knows that I need quiet in between talking. So I can be doing tasks with him (say, painting a room) and we can exchange a few words here and there, but it can still be a recharging activity because my mind is mostly free.

How do you know if you are getting enough recharging time?

I’ve looked and have not been able to find any guidelines for how much alone time should “do it” for the average introvert. My guess is that it varies from person to person as well as from day to day for any one person.

It’s easy to tell when you haven’t had enough though. You are probably tired, cranky, and have a short fuse.  You may not be thinking clearly and have a hard time “playing along” in a social situation. When my batteries are completely dead – i.e. when I’m totally overstimulated – I usually also get a headache.

But ideally, you would never let yourself get to that point.

The longer you let yourself go without recharging, the longer it will take to recover.  And the more draining an activity, the longer it will take to recover.

The key is to learn to listen to your own needs and give yourself little breaks before you end up in that zone where your batteries are dead, crushed, and buried.

I personally need at least two or three hours a day. That’s the bare minimum and I think something like eight hours a day would be ideal.

One can always dream, right? 😉


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Hi! I'm a life coach, a Certified MBTI® Practitioner, and a mentor for stressed out introverts and highly sensitive people. I used to be one myself! My mission is to help you discover your true self and create a life you ACTUALLY like.

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  1. I am an introvert who needs alone time but this lockdown has made that impossible. I feel I am getting depressed. The experts warn staying in all the time can lead to depression but for me it’s the staying in with others that is the problem

    1. I get it. I think this has been really hard for many of us. I’ve designated a time block every day when I’m in my bedroom by myself with the door closed and that has helped some.

  2. Hi.

    I enjoyed reading this a lot. I often find it to be difficult to make other people really understand how I work and why I need to recharge. Making relationships something almost impossible to maintain. Either I compromise my recharge time or if i prioritize my recharge time, that end up being a “deal breaker”

    So it is to read about other people that actually understands.

    1. Hi Dennis, thank you for commenting and sharing your experience! I think you just haven’t found the right people yet. Usually it’s much easier to make it work with other introverts or extroverts who understand personality differences. I know it can be a challenge to actually locate these people but they do exist! 🙂

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