I’m So Unhappy With My Life Even Though I Have Everything
Hey, Hi, Hello,
You know how my blog is called Solutions To All Your Problems?
Okay, that was a dumb question. I already know you know that.
And you also know that in most of my posts, I pick a specific problem and then I talk about some potential solutions to that problem.
Well, today’s post is a little different. Today, I want to zoom out a bit and talk about the mother of all other problems. This is a kind of overarching problem that gives birth to and feeds all the other, more specific, problems.
And I like to call it the “I’m so unhappy with my life even though I have everything” problem.
When you have everything you “should” want…
You have food to eat and a roof over your head.
You have family and friends.
You have a place to go for the holidays and people to hang out with.
You have a job.
Maybe even a “good” job.
You have money to buy things.
Okay, so maybe you can’t buy all the things, but you have enough to pay the bills and some left over.
Overall, it seems like you’re in pretty good shape. As a matter of fact, to most outsiders, it looks like you’re all set.
I mean, what more could you want?
And yet, you’re just not feeling it.
By all measures, you should be happy, but you are… just. not. satisfied.
It could be just a vague feeling of something being off. Something missing. Moving through your days in a fog, unengaged. Feeling like an actor in a movie. Almost like you are faking it…
Maybe it’s your career that didn’t turn out to be what you envisioned.
Maybe it’s relationships that leave you wishing for something more.
Or maybe it’s both.
Or maybe it’s everything. Maybe it has already pulled you into a slump. A stressed out – sick and tired of this shit – slump that you have no clue how to scramble out of.
Is this really all there is to life?
Is this how it’s always going to be?
Is it always going to be this hard?
And you feel so alone with it all.
Everyone else seems to be doing just fine.
They have the same type of life you have and they seem okay with it.
So what’s wrong with you?
Why is it working for them but not for you? Why can’t you just get with the program? Why can’t you just be happy?
Wanna know why?
Now, if these are questions you’ve been asking, then I have the answer.
I have the answer, because I’ve been there. I have personally experienced the “I’m so unhappy even though I have everything” problem.
I supposedly had it all. The husband, the kids, the friends, the job, the money. There was supposedly nothing wrong.
And yet, like having an invisible itch that you can’t find to scratch, I was terribly unhappy. And stressed out. And overwhelmed. And confused about what I actually wanted from life.
Until I figured out the answer to the “why”.
And here’s the answer:
The reason you can’t just snap your fingers and get with the program is that it’s the wrong program for YOU.
The life that looks so great to an outsider isn’t actually YOUR ideal life.
You are living someone else’s ideal life.
You are walking along a beautiful path that was meant for someone else.
And you landed on that path, because we are all taught to want the same things. But the truth is that some of us need a different path.
Not necessarily drastically different. It’s not like our paths are located on another planet.
But some of us just need to tweak the ideal vision a bit to make it suit our personalities and authentic preferences.
If you are nodding your head at what I’m saying so far…
If you can relate to any of this, my dear reader, then there’s something I’ve been dying to tell you about. For the past several months, I’ve been working on a new project that’s finally starting to come together. I’ll be letting you in on more details very soon, but it’s something I’ve created especially for highly sensitive people and introverts to help them find their beautiful path and feel at home inside their lives!
Until this new project is unveiled in September, I’m going to be talking a lot about highly sensitive people and introverts, why so many of us struggle, and how to turn things around.
So stay tuned!
Next week, I’ll be back to tell you WHY it’s so common for introverts and HSPs to end up on the wrong path in life.