After a lifetime of “why are you so quiet” and “you should get out more” commentary, it can take a hot minute for introverts to learn to appreciate their understated selves exactly as they are.
If you could use a little boost in the self confidence department, then I have something that’s guaranteed to skyrocket your progress.
Did you know that there’s a scientific explanation for you being the way you are? And that there’s actually nothing wrong with you? And that there are (literally) billions of other introverts roaming around our planet?
If these facts haven’t quite sunk in with you yet, then I’d like to make a few book recommendations. Here are seven awesome books for introverts – filled with fascinating science, stories, and random factoids all about us quiet ones.
(Pssst, several of these books are also available on Audible.)
BEST BOOKS FOR INTROVERTS
#1 The Introvert Advantage: How Quiet People Can Thrive in An Extrovert World (2002) by Marti Olsen Laney. In her psychotherapy practice, Dr. Laney – herself an introvert – saw how ashamed many of her clients were of their temperament and how even many of her colleagues didn’t fully understand introversion. So she wrote this book to explain introversion and to dole out tips for navigating relationships, work, and self care as an introvert. The chapter explaining the genetic and brain chemistry differences between introverts and extroverts is particularly interesting.
#2 The Introvert’s Way: Living A Quiet Life in A Noisy World (2012) by Sophia Dembling. Sophia Dembling is the author of The Introvert’s Corner blog at Psychology Today and her book The Introvert’s Way is an invitation for all of us to honor what comes to us naturally and quit feeling “less than”. My favorite quote from this book: “I am an introvert. And there’s not a damn thing wrong with me.”
#3 Quiet: The Power of Introverts In A World That Can’t Stop Talking (2013) by Susan Cain. In this classic must-read that has done SO much to raise awareness about introversion, Susan Cain tells the story of how extroversion became the cultural ideal, examines the science of introversion, and mulls over interesting questions like “when should you act more extroverted than you really are” and “how to talk to members of the opposite type”.
#4 Introvert Power: Why Your Inner Life Is Your Hidden Strength (2013) by Laurie Helgoe. According to Helgoe, a clinical psychologist, we have all received plenty of training on the importance and skills related to extroversion. What has been missing for most of us, however, is the equally vital training on the benefits of turning in and on how to do that in a world that demands the opposite. That missing education is what Helgoe offers in this book. She busts myths and misguided beliefs about introversion, discusses why the strengths that introverts bring to the table are vital to society, and shares practical tips for honoring your introversion in the real world.
#5 The Secret Lives of Introverts: Inside Our Hidden World (2017) by Jenn Granneman. Jenn Granneman, the founder of Introvert, Dear, wrote this book, because “it’s time to change how the world sees introverts” and because “it’s time to change how we introverts see ourselves.” In The Secret Lives of Introverts, she shows you how to work with your introversion rather than against it in the context of your relationships and career.
#6 How To Be An Introvert In An Extrovert World (2018) by Michele Connolly. Michele Connolly, the founder of LouderMinds.com, describes her book as an “‘Introvert Resource Kit’ – full of strategies, humor, inspiration, and psychological insights into the introvert life.” And that’s exactly what she delivers. If you want light and entertaining reading, then this one’s for you!
#7 On Being An Introvert Or Highly Sensitive Person: A Guide To Boundaries, Joy, And Meaning (2018) by Ilse Sand. On Being An Introvert Or Highly Sensitive Person is a quick read with lots of practical advice on thriving as an introvert or highly sensitive person. This book also offers one of the best discussions I’ve seen anywhere of the distinctions and commonalities between introversion and high sensitivity.
What’s Your Favorite Book For Introverts?
Have you already read some of the books on my list? Is there another book you would recommend? I would love to hear from you in the comments below! 🙂